I was sick and felt very low energy. My kids needed me and so did my husband. Matt had surgery on his elbow last Monday morning and neither of us really knew how intense it was going to end up being. He has to wear a soft cast on his right arm for two weeks all day, everyday. I wanted to be the loving, happy wife and nurse that put a smile on my face when I helped him with his every need. He can’t use his right arm. He needed help with the pill bottle, the shower, every meal, buttoning his pants, putting on a shirt, he could barely get out of bed…you get the point. I was not that gracious wife. I had an attitude. I was tired. My kids wore me down and now my husband needed all my help too. I felt terrible for feeling this way, but I couldn’t snap out of it.
I was short tempered with the kids and with my husband and I just wanted “me time.” I needed to recoup because I was drained; but everyone else needed Mom and I had no choice but to power through. It was tough and I kept throwing my own little pity party. It seemed like every time I turned around, someone was needing this or wanting that and I wanted to run!!!
Thankfully I didn’t 🙂
But it’s true that we can fall into these roles of being so needed that we can begin to resent it. Resent is a harsh word, but you catch my drift. My Mom title just needed a break. I was sick (and tired) too, but no one was there to help me. These are the sacrifices we make everyday. I wouldn’t change being a Mom for anything on the planet and I love my husband to death. Him being out of commission just magnified the amount of help that he is on a regular basis because me having to pick up his slack (plus a little extra for him) really drained me. He was so grateful for my help (since he was helpless) and I feel terrible that I did it with such a shitty attitude.
I know that there are families out there that deal with many worse situations than ours the last couple of weeks, but I still wanted to share. I want you to know that it’s not always “picture perfect.” We all have good days and bad days and if you are feeling drained or tired of being bossed around by a threenager, know that you are not alone!
We all make it through and thank God I rolled into this week with a smile on my face and a much more pleasant attitude. I’m back to feeling like myself again and have had a great week 🙂
Ill leave you with some great e-cards and please let me know that I’m not alone….
Link up with Natalie and I below for Thoughts for Thursdays.
You are not alone, I had a full functioning husband and I felt the same way. sometimes we just hit a wall and have no more to give. Which is ok. You do a great job taking care of your family!!
Xoxo,
Whitney & Blaire
Peaches In A Pod
What a sincere post! I've been in that same situation plenty of times, being needed constantly can be draining! At least you recognize what's going on and know it's totally normal 🙂
Nope, you aren't alone at all! My husband had a very minor outpatient surgery two weeks ago, and by the second day of recovery I was NOT a happy wife and felt bad for getting frustrated for having to cater to his every need, as well as take care of my kids all by myself over a weekend with no help. I was just exhausted and worn out. I think you're a great mom — especially when you REALIZE that you have a bad attitude that needs fixing. 😉 I'm telling you: women keep this world turning! Ha!
Thank you for being so honest! Those have been my thoughts/feelings and it's so nice to know I'm not alone!
You are not alone.. Being pregnant I have felt like an awful mom to my little girl and awful wife to my husband. Its hard to do everything and all you want to do it lay down and throw the towel in but you know everything else still has to go on.. Thank you for being so honest…
I can totally relate. TFS!
My husband was sick earlier this year and it was the very same! Hang in there. There are ebbs and flows.
I love this post, I feel you 100% as it was me the last few days. It is important to let out frustrations, I'm sure every mom right now can relate 🙂
~ xo Sheree
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You go momma! You're doing a great job!!!
I really needed to see this post today. Thank you!!!
I love the e-cards!! I agree with Owen, you're doing a wonderful job! Mom's AMAZE me!!
Hang in there! Everyone has those days when we seem to be in a "funk."
Been there….actually I might be there every week if I'm honest.
NOT ALONE! I know what you mean about knowing just how good you have it and knowing just how strong a partner your husband is… when he's out of commission. My husband travels for work and he has a BIG 2 week trip to China coming in November…. I'm already nervous. I've done it before, but it's really hard going from 50/50 teamwork to 100% on all the time.
I hope he's feeling better from his surgery and you are feeling better from your funk. They hit us at inopportune times but they're normal and natural and part of life. You survived! 🙂
oh sweet Annie!! I have found myself here so many times and always feel so guilty. It's so important for moms to take time for themselves to recharge but how do you manage that when you are in a place where you are everyone's only caretaker. Prayers your hubby gets better soon, prayers everyone stays well and prayers you can find some peace and find a way to turn that frown upside down. I know usually once I've spoken my peace I feel free to turn it all around.
Totally feel you! No shame!
Great post Annie! I have felt this way more times than not lately. Everyone needs a break! You are not alone. I love for naptime daily! I'm thankful for a weekend away coming up and the ability to have some "me time" and rest and come back a better mom and wife (hopefully!) ha. Thanks for sharing your feelings!!